Since I am kinda on a vacation, I have been doing alot of thinking, about my marriage and life in general.Another sister mentioned this to me once, based on her experiences. She told me to be more open with my feelings. It got me thinking, I have been married 7 years and whenever I did not like something he did or said I would just keep quiet. Thinking he would eventually realize his mistakes. And that I had to be patient. Well after all these years rather than him changing, he continued to be the same person, and very little has changed. And the only person to blame is me. If I just told him what I felt right then and there, things might be different. But you see it's not that easy, I keep things inside because I don't know how to express it. Theres a way to say things but I just don't know how to say it with out being to harsh. My mother always said being desi and being brought up in America, I am like in the middle. I only sord of understand the indian mentality and culture. By now most desi's born and raised in India, know exactly how to handle their husbands. Cause their from the same background. I will not see my husband for a couple months he is on a business trip. Which is kinda good for us, we need that break. I NEED THAT BREAK! I know he is totally not at fault I need to correct myself and actions first.
okay I have now admitted to my faults, it's now time to act on them.....
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assalam'alaikum
am not married, but lemme give this to you:) communication is IMPORTANT in a marriage. You MUST talk to him about how you feel, and be polite and firm, at the same time listen to what he's got to say as well.
good luck ukhtee:)
You know your husband best sister. You know how to deal with the relationship better than anyone else does. May Allah reward you for your patience. May Allah continue to guide you and your husband and bless your marriage.
The problem is.....once we live our married life in a pattern, it's hard to break out of it.
But believe me...start SAYING what's on your mind....as long as you say nothing, he won't see the problem.....
btw, where is your dear husband going for SO long?!!
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