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This weekend we are going to my BIL's house for the weekend. I wanna go at the same time I kinda don't want to go. My jatani elder BIL's wife, is really a nice person. Can be really helpful at times. Then can be totally distant, I can't tell if its a inferiority complex or just plain jealousy. She was brought up in India stop right there that alone can bring a complex refer to The kids are driving me crazy!! post Anyway what I'm try to say is she has two faces, one where she show sympathy and is caring, then one where she is just all about herself. She truly a nice person.

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okay I originally started this post on thursday or something now it's wednesday and we went and are back. Let me just tell you how pissed off I was. There is a limit to the certain things. The whole freakin weekend BIL's wife was on the phone the whole time, talking to her mom. Like I totallly understand you have every right to talk to your mom, but you see she's got this vonage thingy where she can talk to her parents( who are in India) anytime you want for free. She talks to them everyday once in the morning and once in the night for maybe an hour or so. So you think she would lay off a bit on the phone calls over the weekend since we are there, But it was like any free time she is chatting away. I felt like so ignored they were not talking anything of importance, that's what bothered me the most. She was like yeah I am cooking this today, what did you make? Blah blah blah. After she finished cooking she sat on the sofa and picked up the phone started again. Rather than talking to me, who was sitting right next to her she's on the phone. Sunday was when I got really pissed off, we were all getting ready to go to the mall and so my husband says he needed to use the bathroom, so we are waiting, his brother is on the computer and I was in the living room feeding the baby and looking through the sunday sales paper that comes with the morning paper. So she comes in and takes a hand full of sales paper and heads to her room. Then she comes out and talkng on the phone to her mom and heads to the family room to chat some more. I thought she would sit and talk with me since we won't be seeing each other for a couple months. Coz my husband will be out of town. That's the real reason why I was getting more upset. I don't get it I talk to my mom everyday too, but not when my husband is home or some one is over. I think it's just rude. She makes a big deal as if she slaved over a hot stove or something. Most of the stuff was premade or defrosted and for indian standards that is not exceptable, especially in my husbands family everything should be made fresh (my BIL has no clue that she defrosted food or else he would have a fit). Maybe the salan was fresh and how long is that gonna take! Any way I just felt like we were unwelcomed by her.

Tag your it.

I've been tagged by Young muslimah. So here it goes:
10 simple pleasures

1.that I am not "forgotten" in the eyes of Allah
2.sleeping in late
3.have my 2 yr old say "I LUBBA YOU"
4.each time my daughter tells me she finished memorizing a surah, masha allah
5.relaxing on a secluded beach
6.when the house is nice and quiet.
7.being able to eat a piece of chocolate and not having to hear can I have some?
8.when my youngest(6 mos) smiles at me
9.bubble baths
10.having someone cook for me!!

well those are my simple pleasures

It's really sad..

I took my daughter to a class trip , she's in 1st grade at a virtual school. So she was really excited about meeting her teacher and other kids in her grade. It was at a science museum. Anyway my car alarm was giving me problems, so I asked a ride from a friend who's son is in my daughter's grade she was like okay. She picked me up at around 8:30 and as soon as we got there she took her kids out and said she had to return some books at the museum library and she would meet me inside. I hadn't gotten all my kids , so I told her to wait a sec and we'll go together, since I was not familiar with the museum. I mean it was her car wouldn't she want to make sure it was locked? She was acting strange. After I got the kids in the stroller, she started walking ahead of me, I was like why didn't she want to walk with me? So she tells me she will go in the library to return the books, I said okay. I was waiting for outside. After she finished rather then coming up to me she starts to the front entrance of the museum( where everybody was supposed to meet) I was like kind feeling weird like she was trying to get rid of me.. Like she was embarassed to be with me.
You see I wear niqab and she just wears a scarf ,pant and shirt. We've never been out together its always my house,hers or another friends. This was our 1st outing together in public. I had no idea she felt this way. She should've just that she couldn't take or she could've just taken my daughter. All that could've and should've didn't happen instead I was the one hurt. Not because she was dissin me, but the fact that she was a muslim and treated another muslim that way. My next door neighbor is a white american and she's always telling to go on walks with around the neigborhood with her and our kids. Obviously she doesn't cover and I am fully covered. and that doesn't seem to bother her. JUST WHY WAS MY FRIEND SO BOTHERED ABOUT THAT.

Sometimes I wonder about muslims who think and behave like my friend. Do they think people wont stare at them, even if the are just wearing a scarf on their head. It doesn't matter if people stare any less at you for just wearing a scarf but you shouldn't make another feel disrespected for covering more. Me personally I don't think I am any better than one who doesn't cover. Actually Some of my good friends don't wear niqab and we respect each other's wishes. And spend time with each other outside of the house in public and never thought what others might think of us. I thought that my friend who took me to museum felt the same.
MY BAD.
Any way life goes on , I guess I'm just sensitive that way. After that incident we've met up a couple times at get togethers. but I just felt uncomfortable. You know you don't how to behave after an incident like that.

Tea Party with Brad Pitt's neighbor

I attended a tea party earlier this week met up with friends and me some new people. I met a girl let's call her Z. She was really nice brought up in L.A. The hostess told me that Z's parents are filthy rich and are neighbors to Brad Pitt. I didn't believe her , this hijabi wearing mother of 2 little girls is Brad Pitt's neighbor? She spoke really good urdu( for an ABCD) anyway it seems her father owns about 200 or so taco bell stores. So the guy is rich. Big deal. It's just the fact that after growing up in L.A.(hollywood hills, to be exact) she came out normal. She had a conscience , she was so humble. Desi's with even a little bit money and some broken english act like their hot sh--. And here Z is brought up in the lap up luxury and doesn't show a hint of ego or snottiness.

Maybe there is hope for us ABCD's afterall.

My Kids

I have 3 children, oldest 6, 2nd is 2 1/2, and youngest is 6 mos. I love them with all my heart. That's why it hurts when my 6 yr old says she has no friends. But after some thinking and observing I think she's a little bossy. Like one time she told a girl in the masjid, that she should not wear nail polish, coz' she can not pray and her wudu is not valid. She told some other girls that they should not wear short sleeve shirts in the masjid. I think my daughter has become the muslim law enforcer.
I know she means well, but obviously no one would liked to be told what to do, ALL THE TIME!! I think she feels deep in her heart that maybe it's not fair why those girls get to do it and not me. I truly feel sorry for her. How to make her understand that she's in the right path. I feel so lost sometimes when it comes to things like this. You work so hard to teach your children right from wrong. And then you step outside your door and then you are put to the test. TO cave in or to stay steadfast. Now adays it looks like it's so much easier to just be like everyone else, whether right or wrong.
Now I truly understand why Allah Subhana ta'ala gives so much honor and such high status for the mother. It's not easy raising your kids the right way. The upbringing of a child is so essential, in character building.. It's who we are.

Okay I have to always keep this in my head, so everytime I am faced with an obstacle, I will know how to overcome it.

Question..

How do you upload photos or put up images onto this thing?? I have tried and failed. Computer illiterate wants to know.
BTW my husband is a computer consultant. I know I should be put to shame.
I can't ask him coz he this blog is suppose to be a place where I can vent and ramble without being known.

Anyway,someone who knows let me know, too.

been busy...

I have been busy this past week, with my husband leaving for his trip and me trying trying to get the house all cleaned up before I go to jersey. My husband left friday night it's weird but I miss him. I'll be alone with the kids, for a week before we go. Insha Allah may Allah give me the strength to survive the week.

I am trying to potty train my 2 yr old son. It's really really hard with my oldest it was easy, she learnt in 2 weeks. I can get to use the bathroom for 1 but not for 2. Which sucks coz' it's a bigger mess for me to clean up. EWW!! I know.


My 6 yr. old is a bubbly friendly girl. I am currently homeschooling her and so she doesn't get much interaction with other kids her age as she would if she went school. Everyday I take her to our masjid for quran class, which she loves coz she's with other kids. The only problem is the kids are a bunch of brats. They are quite rude and mean. When she went for the 1st time to quran class, she tried to make friends, she asked a girl what her name was and the girl gave a dirty look and said why do you want to know. My daughter just stared at her. She didn't know what to say. We went an ameen party and as soon we came home she started crying and said she has no friends. It broke my heart cause I know that she one of the sweetest little girls I know. Kids these days are so mean. I just hope this doesn't crush her self esteem. Masha Allah she's such a smart and bright girl. It's a shame kids are to blind to to see it. A girl once told my daughter she was ugly and my daughter told her your a muslim and I'm a muslim, and we were created by Allah and Allah makes all things that are beautiful. I was awestruck , I was so happy that she had the courage to stand up to that bully.
BTW- that girl after hearing that said okay your not ugly.